It was one of the most somber days I can remember while cruising on Ubi this past summer. September 1, 2023. Having had our fill with family visits and holiday shenanigans in Newport, Phillip and I were actually in Sag Harbor when we heard the news.



Of all the places to drop anchor and find ourselves on that day. We had landed in one of the places Jimmy called home when the news stunned us. The fun-loving, salty philosopher/poet many of us have looked up to, listened to, loved, whose quirky, candid rhymes in ¾ time accompany dozens of our memories … had left us. The Great Jimmy Buffett had passed away. We heard his songs playing everywhere in Sag Harbor that day. Margaritas were ordered all around and drank in solidarity. I don’t think Jimmy can ever possibly know how many lives he touched, including ours. How many people—as Phillip and I, and many of our coastal and cruising friends do—harbor exceptionally vivid memories wove intrinsically into his songs and lyrics.
While very few can say they actually knew Jimmy—although we have two very special cruising friends who can—I felt like I knew his spirit. I appreciated his humility and wisdom. His humor. His I-don’t-take-myself-too-seriously personality (even though he was a savvy businessman and multi-billionaire). Personally, I like a man in hushpuppies. Our good friends, John and Jody Horner, whom we’ve sailed with on their elegant Sabre 42, Hula Girl, were friends with Jimmy’s sister, Lulu, and they shared several memories with us over the years that came to my mind that day. Good times on Hula Girl:





September 1, 2023. Sailing in Sag Harbor at that time really resurrected Jimmy all around us. As we made our way to new cruising grounds to us—although they were old hat to Jimmy: Shelter Island, Greenport, and the like—five cruising lessons, grown out of the lyrics of one of the greatest songwriters of our time, came to mind.

Jimmy, we all miss you.
Come Monday – I Was Never Meant for Glitter
Come Monday is probably one of my top three favorite Jimmy Buffett songs. I mean, no one can really pick just one favorite. But, Monday always felt like one of the more deeply personal, sentimental songs of his. And, I can relate to the feeling of not being glitzy enough, of doubting myself or someone else’s feelings for, or confidence in, me (not to mention confidence in myself), but then being unsettled by the discovery that my need—for a person or place or status—had grown on me without me knowing and, without my realizing it, had become “that much a part of me now.” To the point that it can be a little scary to learn how much you need something you perhaps didn’t think you did.
Life on a boat feels that way to me: fighting the daily frustrations and pitting our patience and obstinance against the elements, all to savor those rare, stupid, magical moments that are so majestic they can’t be replicated in an easy, uneventful life. I grew up a supreme Tomboy, a cowgirl, farm hand, regular ole’ redneck poor kid, who then tried to change or hide all that under a spiffy law degree, big salary, and fancy high heels and striped suits.




News flash. It didn’t work. To the point that, I found on mine and Phillip’s first offshore voyage—when everything went to shit and I was able to save the day with a hacksaw—I had been missing something in my life. Me. The hushpuppies me.


All of the gritty, never-give-up skills I had honed as a kid actually made me a pretty resourceful, durable cruiser. And, in cruising, I found the place where the real “me” shined, in hushpuppies, not high heels. I was never meant for glitter. Cruising—a.k.a. fixing our boat in exotic places—is just part of me now.

Pirate Looks at 40 – It Was Never Meant to Last
When I hear the first lyrics of this song, I am transported to a different place and time. I’m in the cockpit of mine and Phillip’s first boat—our beloved 1985 Niagara 35, Plaintiff’s Rest, where the two of us truly found one another and found a future between us (cruising the world on a small boat) that grew its own wings and soared. When Jimmy sings “Mother, Mother Ocean, I have heard your call,” I don’t even have to shut my eyes to see me and Phillip—salty and exhausted but exhilarated in the cockpit of our Niagara, shouting the lyrics into the wind as we bash through the last miles of our 5-day sail from Pensacola, Florida to Cuba.





We were only hours out when we played this song several times, knowing—even in the moment—we were creating a memory Phillip and I will probably both replay on our deathbeds. We had sailed to fucking Cuba?! You hear me? C.U.B.A.
But, as memorable as it was, our time there, including the epic sail, zipped by in a blur and it always reminds me of Jimmy’s lyric “I made enough money to buy Miami, but I pissed it away so fast. Never meant to last.” Not that we pissed any of our time in Cuba away, but I felt like I knew in the moment that it was temporary. Our time in Cuba was precisely so precious because it was temporary. It was never going to last. We would sail home and it would be a memory. But, damn, what a memory.
Pencil-Thin Mustache – Savor Nostalgia
Okay, first, this is just one of my favorite Jimmy songs to sing. It’s so sing-songy. This, along with Man of Means, for reasons I can’t explain, are in my go-to repertoire of songs I like to sing when doing tedious boat chores like polishing the stainless or the never-ending wiping, swiping, and cleaning that keeps Ubi looking so impressive.





A clean boat is a happy boat. Jimmy has been with me often when I was shoved up in a boat hole, cleaning something. But, I also love the message of Pencil-Thin Mustache: Embrace Nostalgia, Jimmy is essentially saying. “Jump right up and show your age!” He says as he reminisces on being a “buck-toothed and skinny” kid. I mentioned my cowgirl, dirt-under-my-fingernails roots. But, there are so many things about my childhood that flood me with wonderful memories: romping my My Little Ponies around in the sleeper of my Dad’s big rig, building complicated LEGOs civilizations with my brother, John, making swings out of rope and flour sacks, roping bulls horns tied to hay bales. John and I never failed to find or make our own entertainment!





In Clovis, New Mexico (my primary home) one of the things I remember vividly was playing “high jump” in the backyard, as well as spending hours twirling around the skating rink. I fell a thousand times but finally learned how to skate backwards (although the spin-around element of that equation caused many a-crash). Couples skate gave me heartburn because the boys thought I was gross and smelly. I was. But, damn if I didn’t have a good time circling that rink on my flat skates with the big orange rubber stoppers. Those were the days.
Which is why I was beyond thrilled to find old friends and fellow cruisers whom we’d buddy sailed with from Block Island to Long Island—Peter and Patty on Outbound Hull No. 7, Serendipitous—were equally nostalgic for old-school flat skating.








Patty, actually, was so nostalgic that she hatched up a skate day for the four of us after we found a no-shit, legit old-school skating rink in Greenport, near Shelter Island—a little cruising gem that quickly became one of mine and Phillip’s favorite spots on the Long Island Sound. Patty even had the idea to dress up 80’s style and she killed it with a high pony and glow necklaces to boot.


That was an exceptionally nostalgic day. Afterwards, thankfully we’re all so old, we didn’t have to drink on fake I.D.s as Jimmy mentions in Mustache, but we all remember doing it.
Trip Around the Sun – No Resolutions; Just Enjoy the Ride
I’ll admit, this is a new Jimmy Buffett song to me. It’s not one I sang during my college days in Alabama or any of my cruising years, but the reason it came into my life will make it resonate for the years I have left. Disclosure: Phillip and I lost someone very dear to us in 2023 and this song was chosen as one for the service. Now, Trip Around the Sun, will always remind me I’m still here, circling the sun, with every day granted to me as a gift. What struck me in the lyrics, though, was Jimmy’s resolve to just let go and enjoy the ride. He makes a resolution to make no more resolutions and just savor his trips around the sun. If that doesn’t fit with cruising, I don’t know what does.

Coming from someone who likes to control the things she can—my health (to the extent possible), my attitude, my commitment to surrounding myself with friends who bring me up and push toxic people out, and my undying desire to continue seeing and seeking new places, foods, and experiences—it’s nice to be reminded there are so many things we cannot control. And, when we stop trying to hang onto, and manhandle, those uncontrollable things into submission with white knuckles and, instead, just let them go and enjoy the ride, our trips around the sun are far more enjoyable. For those we lost in 2023 who will make no more trips around the sun: the rest of us will keep enjoying the ride in your honor and spirit.
Changes in Latitudes – Never Turn Down a Chum with a Bottle of Rum
Phillip has actually told me many times that lyric—“Ran into a chum with a bottle of rum, and we wound up drinking all night”—reminds him of his late Uncle Johnny, who really planted the seed for Phillip that grew into his love for sailing, cruising, and a life spent on the water. Phillip told me often about his Uncle Johnny and how many times he’d gone out with Johnny fishing, or for a sail, or a trip to Peg Leg Pete’s and didn’t come back for days. “Happened all the time,” Phillip will tell you and—lucky him—as just a young teenager Phillip got to chum around with Johnny, his Dad, and their cohorts as they ran into many chums with bottles of rum (although the “chum” was probably Johnny most of the time, convincing everyone else to stay out and drink with him, the wives bedamned).

Every time Phillip would tell me one of his Uncle Johnny stories, I was taken back in time to many crazy adventures and college parties spent with my own Dad, a former bull rider, diehard cowboy, and (let’s face it) hearty drinker in his day. Johnny sounded just like my Dad—a larger than life, honky-tonking hellraiser who knew exactly how to have a helluva good time. Some of my best memories resonate around a campfire with my Dad and his guitar-playing friends, sitting on cinder blocks, drinking, picking, and singing into the wee hours of the night.







That was living. I think the takeaway was to savor those crazy, wild nights as they’re part of the blurry ride around the sun that makes this unpredictable life worth living. Never turn down a chum with a bottle of rum.
We followed this lesson wholeheartedly in Greenport, with Peter and Patty, when we refused to turn down a spunky little gal (a chumette, perhaps?) with an entire arsenal of rum bottles. Peter and Patty had the great idea to check out this spirits distillery there in Greenport: Matchbook Distillery. I’m not sure there is a spirit Matchbook does not make—gin, vodka, brandy, sherry, rum, tequila, port wine, you name it. We ordered a flight thinking we would share it among the four of us, but Chumette had a different idea and poured us a flight of four (yes … FOUR?!) full-fledged cocktails … each, followed up by a small pour of anything else we wanted to taste.





Needless to say, the four of us got smashed by 2:00 p.m. and had a helluva time getting back to our boats. It was a wonderfully memorable day … what we remember of it, that is. And, another glorious lesson from The Man himself. Never turn down a good time with good friends. If rum’s included, all the better.
Here’s to you Jimmy and all the other salty souls we lost in 2023, and the many lessons they have installed in us all. Cheers! And R.I.P.

Next up on the blog, we make our way through New York and down to the Virginia to haul out at a new shipyard for us—Cobb’s in Little Creek, VA—for some good ole’ Ubi TLC. Time to pay our dues for all this fun!





































































































































































































































































































































































































































































































































